Yesterday I was watching my 23 year old brother peruse the internet very intently. When I asked him what he was doing he replied that he was looking at beachfront properties to see how much it would cost to buy a house on a beach. Apparently this was research to see how much money he would need to make to afford it, therefore dictating what kind of job he should have. With my usual eye rolling and snarky responsiveness I asked him “Don’t you think it would be more practical to research a job that will afford you a place that is not on my couch?” We both laughed.
Even though my “responsible” side wanted to support a more grounded approach, I had to admire my brother. I saw a lot of myself in him which I would describe to be thevisionary. I have often caught myself in a whirlwind of looking to the future, focusing on my big dreams and goals, but not thinking about the plan or the everyday steps it will take to get there. Even when I do think about and plan for it, its uncomfortable, irritating, and quite frankly I’m impatient to get to my desired end. Why does this happen? Because it’s my personality and make-up. It’s the comfortable go-to and it is where my talents lie – seeing the result or desired end. On the other hand, my husband’s go-to is to figure out the everyday responsibilities that allow us to function and sustain ourselves. He is what I would refer to as the linear thinker. He does the finances, the budgeting, needs to know the X, Y and Z’s of everything before he agrees to move forward. It drives me bonkers sometimes, and is the base of most our disagreements. But it is his talent, his gift, and without it I’d probably either be homeless or in a psych ward. (Totally exaggerating, but not by much.)